Who says the Tao of Badass is solely for guys? I don’t. Suffice it to say, I have been learning a lot from it as well. It has streamlined and defined our actions towards men. Thanks to the Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer, I understand myself better now.
Here’s a good example. I took some time to look into the three secrets that we, women, supposedly or in my case, unknowingly, give to men. I never really thought I was doing it until I went over the three secrets. I must say that Joshua really knows us well. He surely isn’t kidding when he says:
“But when it comes to women, I am a complete badass and here’s why. I learned the things to say, the way to act, and the right timing for everything that I do that makes women uncontrollably gravitate toward me.”
I gotta hand that to him.
It’s A Fact: Women Test Men
Yes, this is a fact and I do agree with Joshua. We, women, like to test men. It’s our “damsel in distress” syndrome that leads us to the hope of finding our prince charming. And because of that, we filter out the men that we think don’t qualify for the position. Joshua describes it really well.
“Women have what’s called a Filter Mechanism. A Filter Mechanism basically means … their job is to filter out all the weak and insecure men who aren’t actually confident and make sure that those guys are not coming into their life.”
With the Filter Mechanism, only the confident men can get close to us.
First Test: Compliance Test
According to Joshua, the first test that we, women, give to men is the Compliance Test.
“The first test is possibly the most common test that men see … it’s called a Compliance Test. A Compliance Test is when a woman asks you to do something and she really doesn’t want you to do it for her. She’s just asking to see if you’re going to jump up off your seat and do anything that she says …”
Megan X at www.behavioralecology.net, a Tao Of Badass review site argues that we, women, do this because we DON’T want to end up with a guy that will bend to our every whim. And why is that so? Joshua explains it quite well.
“Because a guy who bends to her every will is not used to dealing with beautiful women and therefore he’s gonna do anything she wants him to do.”
Second Test: Congruence Test
This second test is one that I totally agree on. The Congruence Test is the test that we, women, like to give guys that think they got it all. Thanks to Joshua, this test has now a name.
“A Congruence Test is something you’ll get more often if you’re pretending to cooler than you are.”
How many times have I met a cool dude in the bar only to end up embarrassing him. The reason for that is that we, women, look beyond the supposedly cool surface of a guy. No matter how abrasive we are on the first few minutes meeting, it matters how the supposedly cool dude behaves. If he’s as cool as he in the inside, then he has a tremendous chance of seeing us again.
“Guys that are very confident are used to women doing this to them …”
Third Test: The Gender Role
The third test is a tricky power play of sorts. The Gender Role test is when we start to take charge and see how the guy can follow and eventually lead the interaction process in the first ten minutes of meeting.
“The way this comes out is that she’ll begin to take charge or take control of the interaction … leading around, turning away, stepping back, talking to someone else.”
According to Joshua Pellicer’s the Tao of BADASS dating tips, we do this to test the guy to determine if he’s strong enough to take charge of relationship. Will he follow or just totally disappear? It’s important to see how the guy responds to this test.
I must say that Joshua really gives guys a clear cut view of how we, women, assess any guy.