First dates make everybody nervous. You’re never too sure on how to act or react on a first date. As much as you want the date to turn out right, there’s always a part of you that sees a bleaker picture.
So it never really hurts to go over some tips for the first date. You may probably have heard about these tips before. But it always pays to be reminded about them because in an uncomfortable situation, you’re bound to end up committing one of them.
The Three Things To Avoid On The First Date
Being aware of the things that you shouldn’t do on a first date strengthens the chances of seeing each other again. According to relationship expert, Ana Loiselle:
“There are three things the people commonly do that really ruin their chances to get to a second date.”
She shares these three things.
“The first one is they talk about their ex. It’s just a really bad idea . Going on and on about your ex makes the person that you’re actually on a date with … feel bad and it’s not focused on them. It’s actually focused on the ex. It makes the person wonder if you’re actually not over them.”
In case your date asks why you’re not married, Ana Loiselle recommends that you not answer such question.
“I say don’t! I think the best thing to do is to actually avoid the question to maybe stir them to another direction and let them know that you would rather talk about it at another time.”
You should always keep in mind that it’s just a first date and you aren’t be obliged to give to much personal information. Besides, it’s always better to be a little mysterious. Your date becomes more curious about you. This gives more chances of being asked out again.
The second mistake that most people commonly commit is that they monopolize the conversation. This happens a lot when you’re nervous.
“A lot of times, what people do … is talk and talk and talk and talk … But it’s not a good idea. You wanna get to know the other person; that’s why they’re there. So asking questions about common interest that you guys might share or maybe things that they’ve done that you don’t know about.”
This way, you can get to know more about your date and that’s pretty much the purpose of the date itself. But Ana has this to add:
“But remember, it should be back and forth. So if I asked you a question about your dreams and aspirations, the idea is that you banter back and ask me. That’s how to keep a conversation going.”
You really wouldn’t want to turn the date into an interrogation
The third mistake is that most people share their deepest secrets. It’s really advisable to keep that air of mystery.
“Stay away from things that are dark and uncomfortable because at best, the person is going to sit there and be polite. At worst, they may not come back from the bathroom.”
So always remember these three things. Who knows, you might just get to the second date.