Making That Call After The First Date

first-date-making-a-callThis is a major decision we all make. Should we call right after the first date or should we wait until he calls? And if what if he doesn’t call? Al these mind boggling questions always arise the day after we wake from a great night out with some amazing guy we had just met.

Wait A Little While?

Well apparently, it all depends on the situation. According to SHALcTV, an online video resource for fashion, movie reviews, and relationship, calling two days after the date is just about the right amount of waiting time.

“… the age-old question, when do you call somebody after the first date? So most of the time people think that they have to wait three days and that’s super traditional and I’m throwing that out the window because that’s too long.”

So here’s her suggestion.

“I say two days if the date went really well.”

She makes a great point. Two days of waiting is more than enough.

“It’s enough time for you to build excitement and anticipation and butterflies in your stomach …”

I totally agree with that. Waiting two days is enough to hold on to the memory of the fun night. That memory is a good point where the two of you had just left off. If there’s no follow up from that point, then the excitement, mystery, and even the intrigue is gone.

But here’s another thought to consider.

“If you had an evening date and it went well and it’s … ten or eleven o’clock and you want to make sure that person gets home safe. Let them know. Say, “Hey, just send me a text so I know you got back safely.”

This shows that you are really concerned about the person. It’s also a great way to sustain the communication line between the two of you. Somewhere along the text messages, you can drop a line that implies that you want to see him again.

Go Ahead If You Can’t Wait

Surely it’s okay to call in less than two days. I know how tiring it can get to keep checking on text messages and missed calls.

“If you cannot wait two days to talk to somebody, you absolutely cannot wait, send him a text message.”

Tell the guy that you really had a great time. Thank him for a one fun night but also make sure to imply that you are excited to see him again. But be careful. Calling him right away can somehow reflect that you’re thinking about him. That might just scare him off. Remember, you don’t know what he’s thinking of at that point.

“I still think two days is a good thing because it allows that person to think that you have things to do and a life beyond him. Definitely wait two days if you can.”

So He Doesn’t Call At All

Here’s the lowdown. What if he doesn’t call at all? As much as it may hurt, it just totally shows that he’s not interested. Sure it was a fun night but some guys can really pull it off for one night and totally move the next day.

So should you call him? Sure why not. That is if you want to hear it straight from his mouth. But his mere action of NOT calling you should be enough of an answer for you.

So there you go. Make that decision to call him after the first date. But also make the decision to accept whatever happens after the call.


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